{"id":14255,"date":"2023-01-16T16:21:24","date_gmt":"2023-01-16T05:21:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/lightmygaia.com\/?p=14255"},"modified":"2023-01-16T16:40:29","modified_gmt":"2023-01-16T05:40:29","slug":"self-compassion-the-great-healer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/lightmygaia.com\/?p=14255","title":{"rendered":"Self-compassion &#8211; the great healer"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"14255\" class=\"elementor elementor-14255\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7bd8a7dd elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7bd8a7dd\" data-element_type=\"section\" data-e-type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-3b03bbeb\" data-id=\"3b03bbeb\" data-element_type=\"column\" data-e-type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-79dfc381 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"79dfc381\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-e-type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\n<p>The topic of \u2018shame\u2019 comes up a lot in client sessions at Gaia\u2019s Light. So often I see people holding on to self-limiting beliefs without even realising where these beliefs come from or how much shame is influencing their daily life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u2018Shame\u2019 makes us feel as if we are the actual \u2018mistake\u2019 or the \u2018thing that happened\u2019 to us. It can make us feel as though we are \u2018broken\u2019 or \u2018defective\u2019 in some way \u2013 which we then equate to being unlovable or unworthy!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>That feeling of being \u2018unworthy\u2019 then translates to \u2018no one would be interested in my story\u2019 \u2013 or \u2018I\u2019m not good enough to be a \u2026\u201d so you can see how this would &#8216;limit&#8217; you from living your best expressive version of yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It can be hard to change that thinking when that\u2019s exactly what you\u2019ve been programmed to believe but it is possible to break free from these energetic and emotional shackles. All you need* is a little writing and a whole lot of love and compassion.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Grab your journal \u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>*Note: As always with these online writing prompts, I don\u2019t want you to delve too deeply into anything traumatic. Some of you may benefit from trauma therapy and a professional team while using this approach as a supportive tool. This is just intended to give you a taster of something that may work for you. From here you might find you want to work with me (or a therapist of your choice) with structure while they hold a safe space.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Creative Block? Or shame, manifesting as fear?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Write down something you have always wanted to do but haven\u2019t done yet.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Why do you think you\u2019ve not made your dream happen? Write down the things you tell yourself \u2013 the things that stop you from achieving that dream or goal.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Can you trace back (and write about) your earliest memories of hearing that internal dialogue\/external voice? When have you felt judged or blamed?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>If you suspect \u2018shame\u2019 could be negatively influencing your life \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>What is your first memory of shame\/embarrassment\/hearing that negative voice?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Where do you feel that emotion in your body?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>What is your coping mechanism? Do you drink, smoke, over-eat, overwork? Are you a perfectionist? Do you procrastinate?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Just as gratitude can help us heal, so too \u2018compassion\u2019 can affect the brain and body<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Look at your previous answers. Can you see a link between them?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Imagine your best friend was telling you all the things you have written down here. What would you say to them? How would you support, comfort or encourage them? Write down all the things you\u2019d say and all the things you\u2019d do to make your friend feel worthy and valued.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Read back what you\u2019ve written \u2013 and believe the words written there \u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Self-compassion is a game changer \u2013 I\u2019m here to help you believe in yourself so you can banish shame forever\u2026 and then I\u2019ll be here cheering you on as you achieve your heart\u2019s desire.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The topic of \u2018shame\u2019 comes up a lot in client sessions at Gaia\u2019s Light. 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